This week, let’s talk about “The Search” because this is a focal point that stops a lot of people dead in their tracks. When you’re trying to get on your fitness path, the two most common obstacles (I hear) are 1) lack of time and 2) lack of motivation.
So then the search becomes “Where can I find the time?” and “How do I find the motivation?”
I wanted to touch on these themes this week because I’ve definitely felt unmotivated. I’ve definitely felt like time went by too fast and I didn’t make the most of it. And that’s… perfectly fine. I can embrace that and get the job done.
The real problem with those two points is that they’ll never be a constant. They’re always going to fleeting– just like willpower.
The Truth about Time
Film critic turned screenwriter C. Robert Cargill received a fan question about how to make it in the film industry in your 20’s. He responded with:
The two main takeaways that always stuck with me are these:
- Even the most level-headed and reflective people underestimate how much they want the overnight success.
- Time doesn’t give a damn about how you use it. You have to find the way to make the puzzle pieces work.
So let’s say you find the “ideal” training program, but you can’t find the time. Do you cast it aside? No. You adapt. You modify it to fit your timetable. You find a way to make it work for you, despite your limitations.
The Truth about Motivation
When you’re motivated, there’s a sense of excitement. There’s a high that you want to ride. And when it’s gone, you naturally want to get it back. You miss it. You become dependent on it. You think you need it.
But think about all the things you got going on in your life now. How motivated are you to brush your teeth? How psyched are you to take a shower? How amped up do you feel to go pee?
Maybe you’re an outlier. Maybe you go HAM when you brush your teeth, take a shower, and take a piss.
But for a lot of folks, they don’t even think twice about it. They just do it.
And that’s the thing: motivation can be a great boost when you have it, but set your focus on action. After all, sometimes getting the date requires you to just ask and not “feel ready” to ask.
Mindsets to Move Forward
So moving forward, what kind of perspective do you want to take? Do you want to guilt trip yourself and lie to yourself that there are no excuses? (Well, you know what? There are plenty of excuses and reasons not to hop on the fitness train.)
Do you want to put all your eggs in the “fun” basket? Only to get frustrated and fall off the minute something stops feeling fun?
I just try to channel Spider-Man.
You know it: with great power comes great responsibility. You owe it yourself to take care of yourself. Strengthening mind, body, and soul– that’s the closest thing we have to immortality. That’s what it takes to prolong your life.
When the jokes are there, I’ll live it up. But even if I got the green goblins, hobgoblins, and venoms in my life, I’ll still do something. Because I can.
I don’t need to keep looking for the other stuff.